I have no idea of many people who argue resistant to the value of giving thanks, etc the surface evidently I am simply preaching for the choir here. It’s easy to have fun here for all the blessings we’ve got in our life like family, friends, health, food, shelter, etc. Expressing gratitude is linked to several benefits between better mental and physical health, to improved relationships and productivity.
I recently entered gratitude in to a search on Google and yes it returned 109,000,000 results, and I noticed a disturbing trend. Based on the top links that delivered it appears that many individuals are using gratitude for selfish aims. Among the top links that made a comeback on page one out of my search were: “The 31 Benefits of Gratitude You Didn’t Know About,” “Can Gratitude Make Millennials More Successful?” and “7 Surprising Health Benefits of Gratitude.”
In my experience, really the only genuine practice of gratitude is the place it is done to enrich others. In fact, within my regular practice of gratitude I specifically ask the recipient to not acknowledge it, but, as long as they feel compelled to react, to send out a similar message of gratitude to someone in life OTHER THAN ME!
I believe expressing gratitude for selfish reasons could eventually backfire in the same manner I see general selfishness and greed eventually revisit bite people. It’s not easy to do, but also in the long run, helping others will satiate a lot faster than only shopping for yourself.
Our society has grown to be obsessed with results, to its detriment, within my humble opinion. I have found how the need for results makes those very results a lesser amount of likely to occur. That’s why my focus relies primarily on process and purpose. Unfortunately, I do not have enough time to go into process and purpose (and can in a future post) as I desire to tackle another issue with how people practice giving thanks.
The other problem I have using the way people express gratitude is because they often target the easy things. If you’ve got read my blogs before, you might have likely seen me utter the saying: ‘Life is 10% what goes on and 90% how you will react to it” (although I now believe it’s a lot more 3% and 97%). I have personally learned that once I learned to embrace the negative things that have happened if you ask me, as well as be grateful for them, it accelerated my growth exponentially.
As children, I used to curse the fact life has not been fair and infrequently felt sorry for myself. I think a major reason I felt by doing this was because my mother perished two days before my fourth birthday. Regardless of the cause, all feeling sorry for myself did was produce a bad situation more serious.
I eventually realized there was clearly a positive side to losing my mom in a young age. It helped me a more sensitive and empathetic person and others traits serve me presently. I’m even grateful for all you people who bullied me or took good thing about me when I was down, for I would donrrrt you have gained the dear skills or knowledge I have, otherwise. These experiences forced me to understand how to problem solve at the young age and think in my feet. All of these traits and skills are vital on the work I do today.
In addition, I also suffered deep depression and anxiety after my mom died, but fighting those battles forced me to be a better person. Though it took for a long time than I would have liked, I like those I am today.
Having said all that, if I could choose, I would quit all of these benefits in a very second to get my mother back even for a few days. But I can’t choose, so I have recently learned to experience the cards I have been dealt in a very forward looking way.
It’s all to easy to fall into the trap of planning on what would have or has been. In my case it will be if my mother had lived. But those fantasies are filled up with inaccuracies when they envision an idealized version of those I am now, and also the reality is I may have was a completely different person. Perhaps even an entitled spoiled momma’s boy with not much compassion, for those I know.
If you wish to accelerate your growth, learn to own gratitude for the stuff that you missed out on or that went wrong, as well as the issues that went right, then when you choose to express it outwardly, take action to enrich others to not receive any benefits for your self.